In Love

I have never been in love before, I thought I was with my ex-husband but I think when my marriage fell apart I realized that I didn't even really know what being in love was. As you know I am a student of life with many theories, so here is my theory on what it must be like.

It sneaks up on you when you least expect it most likely with someone you weren't thinking it would happen with. Maybe you hoped, but you didn't know for sure. You can't plan for it or prepare for it, and when it happens it's the most scary yet exhilarating thing you've ever felt.

This person can memorize parts of you better than their favorite book. What your face and body say when your lips don't utter a word. You may frustrate them to no end, but that's part of what draws them to you. Being in their arms feels like the safest place in the world. They can make you laugh when all you want to do is cry. They push you to be the best possible version of yourself without actively trying to change who you are. Your quirks, flaws, and neurosis are some of their most favorite things about you because even if you see them as ugly this person sees them as a big part of what makes you beautiful.

There is no one else. Of course you may form some mental or physical attraction to other people, but it'll never compare to what you already have with your special someone. They are the sexiest, smartest, funniest person you know regardless of what anyone else may think. They compliment you in a Martha Stewart/Bob Villa kind of way. It's so nice that they get you, who you are, what you're about without you having to painstakingly explain yourself. They fit into your world and you into theirs just as if this is how it should have been all along.

It's not perfect, sometimes it takes work, but you both have a confidence in what you share so strong that no challenge seems insurmountable. There's a balance between your similarities and your differences. And at the end of the day seeing that other person's smile makes everything else worth it.

For those of you that have fallen in love, am I even close or completely delusional?