Dodging A Bullet

As much as Melissa continually tried to convince herself that Gavin was an honest and decent person, the evidence just points to the contrary. She wanted more than anything to try to salvage the friendship, but he had completely distanced himself from her like an immature child running away.

Her good friends Racine and Donald had a very brutally honest chat with Melissa about why her life was so much better off without Gavin in it.

Here were the cold hard facts:

At 33 years old he had no direction in his life unless going to the video game store counts

He has an inability to do even the most basic tasks most of us learn as children: laundry, preparing meals for ourselves, cleaning up after ourselves. And as an adult he has no handle on his finances either.

He's dishonest to the women he deals with especially in regards to other women he's dealing with. He specifically told Melissa he wanted to work on developing a "relationship" between the two of them while just days before he had reconnected with an ex about possibly getting back together and working on their relationship. They also slept together which he completely forgot about and claimed it was all "unintentional". Disgusting two timing pig!

His inconsiderate nature expecting people to wait around for him to call/text when he deems it convenient to him to make plans. And 95% he'll choose playing video games instead of socializing with the outside world.

He'll apologize over and over and over again for the same things. It's gets to the point where it just seems monotonous and insincere. And his apologies are empty because they are never filled up with an actual action or change to make things better.

His extreme social dysfunction. afraid of movies, afraid of meeting new people, afraid of any group of people larger than two. Unwilling to try new things, branch out, make new friends.

He admits he needs help, but is afraid of therapy so sadly the cycle will continue with other people until who knows when. The person Melissa feels the worst for is that other girl who has been dealing with him on and off for years. Melissa knows how hurt and frustrated she got after a month, so she can barely imagine what this other girl is dealing with.

And after all is said and done Melissa and her huge stupid heart wanted to be there for him, figure things out so they could still have some kind of friendship. He blew her off once more. Racine said, "You dodged a bullet with that one."

In the past Melissa would have held on to this dysfunctional "relationship" for months, but now she's in a place where she knows that she deserves so much more than Gavin could ever be capable of giving her. Why would she want to be friends with someone so immature, selfish, and disrespectful? The answer is she doesn't.